Your toddler just had a really embarrassing meltdown at the grocery store. The bills are stacking up. You just had a fight last night with your husband. Your parents need you to help clean their house and run them all over town for doctor appointments. Plus, you have to prep and magically hold it together for that huge client meeting tomorrow that will make or break a deal you have been working on for months.
PHEW!! I know it is a LOT!
Let's face it. With all the things we have to deal with in "life", it is tough to always have it together. Trying to keep everything in balance is as if we are spinning several plates in the air at all times. The second one falls, it seems like they all come crashing down. "When it rains it pours," as they say.
How can we avoid the (always) untimely crash and burn of all the plates falling down?
1. Take care of you FIRST.
One thing I always quickly realize when I feel on the verge of burnout is that I have not been taking enough time for myself. This could mean eating out too much or not hitting the gym like I should. It could also mean not taking my time to journal or read a book like I love to do in my spare time. The key here is realizing that you need to be more focused on your own needs.
The world will take and take from you if you allow it. It is making sure you do not overload your schedule too much to where you do not have time for yourself.
If you are not sure if you are taking enough time to put yourself first, sometimes I find the following helpful. Usually your outside world reflects your internal one. Therefore, how clean is your house? Did you get your meal prep done this week, or is your fridge full of rotting veggies from last week? Did you take the time to take the junk out of your car this week, or is it piling up? How are your clothes fitting? Are you getting headaches because you haven't had enough water today? Did you take the time to eat? Do you feel on the verge of tears and can't figure out why?
2. Ask for help.
With the highlight reel we live in on social media, it is easy to believe that some people you follow are literally superwoman. They have 3 kids, an awesome real estate career, live in a fancy house on the bluffs, and drive a range rover. Not to mention they are super active in their church and kiddos schools. Ew. You know who I am talking about. They are perfect and you wish you could be them.
NEWS FLASH- These women probably have a ton of help and financial resources that you do not. She has parents on both sides of the family that are no longer working and have the time to help raise the kiddos. (This means she has no daycare expenses.) She has an inheritance because her rich great uncle Bob died and left each family member a million dollars, allowing her to have ZERO mortgage on that beautiful, fancy house. All the money she makes from real estate is her "play money" because her hubby makes enough from his career to pay the bills plus keep some for their savings and investments.
You are not them, so stop comparing your life to theirs, learn to ask for help, and take all the fluff off your calendar. Let homegirl be the president of the PTA and calm down.
How much down time have you had lately? You need some quiet time to think and just be every once in a while. How long has it been since you have had some time like this? A few days? A week? A month? Can't remember??
Girl. Get a 30 minute chill time in each morning while you drink your coffee. Put on some ocean sounds. Get on insight timer and find a meditation to listen to. Listen to the birds chirping outside your window. Just make the time and do it regularly.
4. What makes you happy?
Sometimes I find that I feel out of balance when I haven't done something that I LOVE in a while. My list includes: Camping, kayaking, biking, hiking, or going to the coast for a couple days. If it has been more than a month that I haven't done something on this list, I feel out of whack.
When was the last time you did something you LOVEEEEEE?? Do you even have a list? I find a lot of times us working gals don't even know anymore. Your list might be: uhhh...I used to love to hula dance, but now I just work and spend time with my kids. NO!!! Pick the hula back up NOW! Once a week. You need time regularly to do something that brings you joy.
5. Get it out!
Sometimes ya girl needs a good cry. You need to talk it out. You can't bottle that shit. Get a bottle of wine and call your long time entrepreneurial girlfriend and just ventttttttt. It won't necessarily solve anything, but I promise you will feel better. Sometimes just knowing you aren't alone in this journey will help.
I find that as long as I am doing these things, I can prevent myself from going over the edge to burnout. The second I push myself just a tad too far, that is when it hits me like a ton of bricks. I hope this helps you too! :-)